It’s no secret that the average nurse leads a demanding and stressful life. After working a 12-hour shift providing bedside care, it may be difficult to go home and care for a spouse. With the stress of raising a family and bringing home a paycheck, and with divorce rates at an all-time high, keeping a healthy relationship is a juggling act to say the least.
If you research why couples divorce, you’ll generally find a few common answers.
Top reasons why nurses may struggle with their relationships:
> Childcare issues causing a strain on a relationship
> Lack of intimacy due to a nurse’s erratic schedule
> Lack of understanding/support from spouse
> Money problems
It’s not hard to imagine any of the above reasons attributing to a nurse’s relationship demise. Caring for patients is a stressful, time-demanding and physically exhausting job. In order to keep our relationships healthy, we sometimes need to put our workday aside and concentrate on what is most important to us.
Dai Williams, a chartered occupational psychologist and member of the British Psychological Society, authored a study published in the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology that found “those involved in the caring professions experience a high level of break-up. This might be because they spend too long caring for other people at the cost of their own families, or because they are naturally sensitive people who are more vulnerable and sensitive in their own relationship.”
Here are six tips to help nurses continue on with a healthy marriage.
1. Consult with a financial advisor. If money is an issue in your marriage, a financial advisor will help guide you when making those money decisions.
2. Talk it out. Always talk it out with your spouse or partner. If you don’t say what’s on your mind, your partner will never know. Remember, as much as you think you know each other, your partner can’t read your mind!
3. Make an effort. Surprise your partner by doing something out of the ordinary. Plan a surprise getaway or candlelight dinner. Let your partner know you’re still interested in them!
4. Get professional help. It never hurts to get a professional involved. Many people who have successful marriages seek marriage counseling to keep the ties strong.
5. Remember why you fell in love. Focus on the good in your partner. Don’t always dwell on the negatives.
6. Have fun! Don’t ever stop having fun with your partner!
It’s safe to say that relationships don’t come easily in life. Like nursing, relationships require care, attention, patience and hard work. If we can apply these traits to a career, then why is it so hard to apply them to our relationships?